Mary Kathryn Torrey

Mary Kathryn Torrey, 79, of Manhattan and Norfolk, died at home in NYC on Aug. 10, 2023 after a long struggle with achalasia, COPD and heart issues.   She is survived by William, her husband of 58 years; and by two married sons, Michael (Patricia) and Matthew (Kristin) and Matthew’s two children, Madeline (6) and Malcolm (1).  Mary Kay was predeceased by her brothers, Clifford and Bill, and is survived by sisters Barbara, Paula and Michele.   

Born in Casper, Wyoming on Sept. 5, 1943, she grew up largely in North Dakota.  She moved with her family to La Mesa, Calif. in her teens and graduated from San Diego State College.  She subsequently earned a Masters and a Ph.D. in political science from New York University.   Before NYU, she taught elementary and junior high school in Nashville and Little Rock and worked for the Bedford Stuyvesant Redevelopment Corporation.  

After NYU, she taught at Mercy College, the University of New Haven and John Jay College.  Once her children reached school age, she devoted her skills to parent participation in the administration of the children’s schools, Corlears School and The Cathedral School.  

An avid birder, Mary Kay taught birding to grade school children in New York City schools under the aegis of NYS Audubon’s “For the Birds” program. She also devoted much time to the Ballet Guild of New York City Ballet.  Mary Kay loved cooking and she authored a cookbook with her sisters. She loved gardening, the opera, ballet and theater.  International travel was a favorite.  

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that contributions be made to New York City Ballet or to the For the Birds program of NYS Audubon Society.  Given the wide geographical dispersion of her family and friends, and in an effort to avoid a COVID event, there will be a Zoom conference call in lieu of a memorial service.  Details will be emailed to interested persons.  Burial will be at a private family service in Norfolk, Conn.